If you’re in a long-distance relationship, you’ve probably tried everything to stay sexually connected to your partner from afar: dirty phone calls, pic swapping, sexy letters, watching porn together online, etc. But there’s one tech-powered tool that you should add to your playbook: long-distance sex toys.
These toys include vibrators, dildos, and more, but can be operated from anywhere in the world via an app. This “remote access,” so to speak, allows you and your partner to have control over each other’s pleasure experience no matter where you’re located. Depending on how you use them, you may be able to discreetly use a toy in a public place (again, you can control them with an app) or even connect to an online community and give your consent to a faraway stranger to control your pleasure.
In other words: Whether you’re just wanting some sexy playtime at work across town, or to get raunchy with a partner on the other side of the world, these toys can make your sexy long-distance romp an unforgettable experience. We talked to three sexperts to get their recommendations on how to choose a long-distance sex toy—plus some of their favorite options on the market.
Features to look for when shopping for a long-distance sex toy
This form of long-distance sex play is known as teledildonics, and there are so many options from which to choose! Here’s how to narrow it down:
- Toy type: What toys do it for you? Consider your favorite erogenous zones (aka parts of your body that you like stimulated) to buy toys that can enhance your pleasure in those areas. Odds are, there’s a long-distance version for you.
- Sync settings: To feel more physically connected to your partner’s physical pleasure, choose toys that modify vibrations based on what your partner’s body is doing. This is called bi-directional syncing.
- Toy compatibility: Variety in sex toys can be important, so checking which of your toys will sync together through one app can also make your long-distance romp much easier.
- Audio / video capabilities: The best long-distance sex toys can sync to an audio or video feed seamlessly, so you don’t have to switch between an app for your toy and an app like Facetime to hear or see your partner’s reactions.
- Material and quality: As when buying any other kind of sex toy, you’ll want to prioritize toys that are made of body safe materials like silicone and stainless steel—particularly if they’re going inside your body.
No matter what kind of stimulation you prefer (anal included), this guide will help you find an app-controlled sex toy to use with a partner or for secret solo play, wherever you are in the world.
The 17 best long-distance sex toys for couples that sex experts love
1. The best long-distance sex toy set
Kiiroo Onyx+ & Pearl2 Couple Set — $289.00
Kiiroo specializes in toys that allow partners to feel bi-directional pleasure. In this set you get the Pearl2, a G-spot vibrator, and the Onyx+, a male masturbator that fits over a penis that hits up to 140 simulated strokes a minute.
According to Amira Williams, PhD, sex therapist and resident sexpert at LetsTalkSex, the toys will respond to each other during use via the brand’s app, “allowing couples to feel each other’s rhythm in real-time despite being miles apart, making it perfect for maintaining sexual intimacy in long-distance relationships.” The toys themselves are compatible for remote use with any other Kiiroo toy, so if you decide to branch out your collection, you’ll still be able to use them together.
The Onyx+ itself comes with a downside, and that’s penis fit. People with smaller penises (diameter less than 1.5 inches) will have to separately purchase a sleeve to ensure the toy fits properly. People with penises with a diameter larger than 1.7 inches will not be able to work with this toy.
Materials: ABS, silicone (Pearl2); ABS POM (Onyx)
Dimensions: 20 x 3.9 x 3.6 centimeters (Pearl2); 8.9 x 7.9 x 26.3 cm (Onyx)
Power: USB charging
Battery life: 1 hour
- Excellent bi-directional syncing
- Sleek and sexy black design
- Onyx toy has replaceable sleeves for ease and convenience
- Great value for two toys
- Thinner penises need to purchase an adapter for maximum pleasure
- Only includes a “male” and “female” toy
2. The best long-distance sex toy set for queer couples
We-Vibe Tease Us Sets
All three experts interviewed for this story raved about the We-Vibe brand. If you want perfectly paired, long-distance toys, the brand’s Tease Us sets are a great option. “If you’re going to do long-distance play, why not get a set that comes with two toys?” says Carol Queen, PhD, sexologist at Good Vibes.
The set has two toys: either two of the Moxie+ (a remote-controlled panty vibrator) or the Bond penis ring, or one of each. No matter your sexual configuration, you can snag perfect companion toys for both you and your partner. The toys can be controlled via remote or with an app. Another perk: You don’t need to touch the toys once they’re in place, making it easier to focus on your partner through the app. You and your partner will have fun exploring the 10 different vibration settings together, even when miles apart.
Materials: Silicone and ABS
Dimensions: 7.8 x 4.4 x 4.8 centimeters (Bond); 8.5 x 2.3 x 2.7 centimeters (Moxie)
Power: USB charging
Battery life: 120 minutes
- Sex-inclusive sets
- Waterproof
- Easy to use and control
- Pricing of sets not consistent
3. The best long-distance suction toy
We-Vibe Melt — $149.00
If you need clitoral stimulation to orgasm, then this suction vibrator is a great option. The Melt vibrator uses pulsed air as stimulation, fitting “right around the clitoris and making a sucking motion, letting many people experience easier and quicker orgasms, as well as multiple orgasms,” says Suzannah Weiss, sexologist for the eHealth project and AASECT-certified sex educator. That feature, plus its two-hour battery life, makes this toy a great contender for a marathon sex session.
Of course, this isn’t just a solo toy. As with the above-mentioned Moxie and Bond toys, Melt is compatible with the We-Connect app, making it easy for you or your partner to control no matter where you’re located. Melt also boasts 12 intensity settings, a super quiet motor, and is totally waterproof.
Materials: Silicone
Dimensions: 12.6 x 2.4 x 1 centimeters
Power: USB charging
Battery life: Up to 2 hours
- Great for multiple orgasms
- Tons of settings
- Waterproof
- It’s pricey compared to other similar products
4. Best affordable long-distance clitoral stimulator
Satisfyer Pro 2 Generation 3 with Connect App — $90.00
The Satisfyer Pro 2 is one of the most popular clitoral stimulators on the market (peep those 42K five-star ratings on Amazon!), and for good reason. Like the We-Vibe Melt, the Satisfyer Pro 2 uses pulsed air waves for no-contact stimulation. But the Gen 3 version of the famous toy comes with an additional cap with “liquid air technology,” aka a silicone membrane that helps mimic gushing water. (So your shower head can get a rest.) There are also two motors powering the toy’s 11 pressure wave and 12 vibration programs.
Critical note: If you want this toy to work long-distance, shell out an extra $10 for the app-enabled version of the toy. “Its dedicated app control allows partners to orchestrate those waves of pleasure from any corner of the globe—like being able to send love letters through sound waves!” says Williams.
Materials: ABS plastic, silicone
Dimensions: 2.5 x 6.5 x 1.8 inches
Power: Magnetic USB charging
Battery life: Not listed
- More affordable than other clitoral stimulators
- Waterproof
- Unique technology
- Only one version of the toy is long-distance friendly (so be careful to buy the right one!)
5. The best long-distance G-spot vibrator
OhMiBod Esca 2 — $70.00
When three different sexperts recommend the same toy, you know it’s good. Weiss says the Esca 2—a G-spot vibrator—is quiet enough to be “worn out and about, so your partner can use the accompanying app to control it from across the world or across the dance floor.” You can also customize pulses and vibrations to sync with your favorite music through the OhMiBod app.
The soft, flexible toy has two motors, which allows it to stimulate your clitoris and your G-spot simultaneously. The smaller clitoral end also has a LED “spotlight” that flashes in time with the vibrations, so you or any IRL partner can get clued into what you’re feeling. (Just remember to turn off the light before you do anything in public.) It’s also great for pairing with other long-distance toys too, as it also works with the separate FeelConnect app (and thus other Kiiroo toys). For all of these reasons, Dr. Queen says, “this is the kind of toy you want around when the phone sex starts!”
Materials: ABS plastic, silicone
Dimensions: 7.3 x 1.3 inches
Power: USB charging
Battery life: Up to 3 hours
- Very affordable
- Super quiet
- Excellent G-spot stimulation
- LED light is automatic–have to turn it off manually
6. Best long-distance panty vibrator
OhMiBod blueMotion NEX 1 Gen 2 — $145.00
Taking your long-distance shenanigans to the office or out in public? Dr. Queen recommends the blueMotion NEX 1 Gen 2 because it’s “a sleek little panty vibe that’s ready to deliver when you pair it with the OhMiBod app.”
You might think that $145 is a lot for a panty vibe. But you get a lot for your money: The app supports multiple languages, which is great for partners across the world. Unlike many other remote apps, you’re able to text or video chat directly through the app—so you don’t have to jump back and forth between apps during playtime. You can save custom vibe patterns or log your orgasms, too. With purchase, you also get a pair of lace panties that have a pocket for the vibrator.
Materials: Body-safe ABS
Dimensions: 3.75 x 1.75 inches
Power: USB charging
Battery life: One hour
- Small and sleek design
- Multilingual app
- Less intense than other panty vibrators, which is great if you get overstimulated easily
- In-app chat and photo sending
- Included panty is one-size-fits-some
- Vibration may not be intense enough for some
- New version available of this product
7. Best versatile long-distance panty vibrator
We-Vibe Moxie+ — $139.00
Dr. Queen says this small, versatile vibe can be used in your hand, under a harness, or in panties. “You can wear it out and about and hand your partner the controls, or fire up the app’s 10 modes and enjoy sex play no matter where your partner is.” It uses a magnet to hold it easily in place, meaning there’s no need for specialty underwear.
Dr. Williams adds that it’s perfect for “those surprise moments of intimacy” when you start or end your day but your partner’s at work.
Like other WeVibe products, this product is super quiet and waterproof. It also comes with a small remote control in case you don’t feel like messing around with the app.
Materials: Body-safe silicone
Dimensions: 8.5 x 2.3 x 2.7 centimeters
Power: USB charging
Battery life: Up to 2 hours
- 10 modes for lots of variety
- Small and quiet
- Easy to use
- Magnet attachment unsafe for people with pacemakers
8. Best long-lasting, long-distance bullet vibrator
Svakom Phoenix Neo — $153.00
The standout feature of this app-controlled vibrator is its flexible, curvy shape. Dr. Queen says: “It’s a fantastic insertion toy with a great G-spot shape and can be used externally too.”
Like the Esca 2, this toy has a light on the tail end that pulses in sync with vibrations. Unlike other toys, this one also syncs with adult videos viewed through the separate FeelConnect3 app, making your experience even more interactive. It also has an impressive 4.5 hours of battery life, ensuring you’re able to go back for more (and more, and more) without having to recharge. Oh, and it’s waterproof, too.
Materials: Silicone, ABS
Dimensions: 1.6 x 11.9 x 12.8 centimeters
Power: USB charging
Battery life: 4.5 hours
- Flexible, curved shape
- Great battery life
- Waterproof
- Can sync to erotic content
- Some reviewers wished the vibration was stronger
9. Best long-distance vibrator with music syncing
Lovense Lush 3 — $229.00
Playlists are the new mixtapes, and the Lush 3—another G-spot vibrator—is an excellent option that allows you or your partner to control the toy through music or the sound of your voice, in addition to the regular app controls. Through the app, you can set vibration levels to your precise preferences and experiment with vibration patterns. These customization options transform the vibrator into an “interactive tool,” Dr. Williams says, “creating a personalized experience that transcends distance.”
And if you’re in an open relationship, Lovense has an active Discord server with channels for people who want to control a toy or have it controlled, making it easy for you to experience pleasure with new people.
Other perks: The Lush 3 very quiet, so you can pop some headphones in, turn on your toy, and any nosy roommates or houseguests will be none the wiser. And with up to 5 hours of continuous use between charges, you quite literally get a lot of bang for your buck. (Good thing too, because it is one of the most expensive options on this list.)
Materials: Silicone
Dimensions: 5.3 x 3.77 x 2.94 inches
Power: Magnetic USB charging
Battery life: Up to 5 hours
- Quiet and discrete, perfect if you have roommates
- Unique music syncing capabilities
- Up 5 hours of battery life—the highest on this list
10. Best long-distance couples massager
We-Vibe Chorus — $209.00
Dr. Queen says this egg vibrator is a must for anyone who loves dual or triple stimulation. It vibrates to stimulate the clitoris and G-spot simultaneously (and a partner’s penis, if you’re together IRL). It’s waterproof, super adjustable, and can be controlled long-distance or in person through an app. But Dr. Queen says the standout feature is the additional Squeeze Remote, “because it’s all about the sensation.” The vibrations respond to how tightly you’re squeezing and clenching. The better your partner makes you feel via the app, the better the toy partners with them to get you over the edge.
Materials: ABS, silicone
Dimensions: 4.4 x 3.3 x 7.8 centimeters
Power: USB charging
Battery life: 90 minutes
- Multiple points of stimulation
- Innovative squeeze-powered vibrations
- Several color options
- Waterproof
- Some vibration modes are app-activated only
- Shorter battery life than other options on this list
11. Best long-distance rabbit vibrator
Lovense Nora — $199.00
Lovense’s Nora rabbit vibrator has two heads—one that vibrates on your clitoris, and one that massages your G-spot—that can be controlled separately for maximum pleasure. Dr. Williams says it reacts to body movement in addition to the app controls for your partner. “It’s like having a responsive lover who adapts their moves according to yours, making every session unique and satisfying,” she says. The app also lets you experiment with tons of different vibration patterns and sync the vibrations to music. Plus, the Nora pairs with many other toys in the Lovense sex toy ecosystem, so you and your partner can enjoy simultaneous satisfaction during long-distance sex.
Materials: ABS, silicone
Dimensions: 3.14 x 9.53 inches
Power: Magnetic USB charging
Battery life: 4 hours
- Rotating head action
- Impressive battery life
- Only compatible with some Lovense toys
12. Best hands-free long-distance sex toy
We-Vibe Nova 2 — $149.00
If your hand is prone to cramping or you have achy joints, you’ll enjoy the hands-free design of We-Vibe’s Nova 2. The rabbit vibrator is designed so that your clitoris is getting consistently buzzed no matter how crazy partnered sex gets with the toy.
Unlike other toys on this list, you can only control vibration and intensity with an app (no matter if you’re solo, with your partner, or playing long distance). But just because the controls are simple doesn’t make them less effective. Dr. Williams describes the sensations from this toy as “having an orchestra conductor at your fingertips.”
Materials: Silicone
Dimensions: 21.7 x 8.5 x 3.9 centimeters
Power: USB charging
Battery life: 90 minutes
- Waterproof
- Seamless vibrations from app to toy
- Unique, ergonomic design
- Only controlled via the We-Vibe app
13. Best synchronized long-distance sex toy
OhMiBod Fuse — $149.00
The Fuse might look like any other rabbit vibrator. But it’s got some tricks up its sleeve. You can sync it with your partner’s device (whether it’s their own Fuse or another Kiiroo sex toy) so that you both can feel the same sensations—allowing you to mimic partnered sex from miles away. “It’s like having your partner right there with you…even when they’re not!” Dr. Williams says. You’re also able to control your partner’s toy from the tickler of your own, and the toy responds to your motions. (Pretty cool, right?)
Other perks: A respectable 90 minutes of battery life, two motors for full-powered vibrations, and an LED light that glows in time with the toy. (However, the light’s placement can make it seem like there’s a flashlight coming out of you, which isn’t the sexiest vibe…)
Materials: Silicone, ABS
Dimensions: 18 x 3.4 centimeters
Power: USB charging
Battery life: 90 minutes
- Touch-responsive technology
- Pairs with other Kiiroo toys
- Dual stimulation for external and internal pleasure
14. The best long-distance wand massager
Lovense Domi 2 — $199.00
Dr. Williams says the app-controlled Lovense Domi 2 is widely heralded as one of the best wand massagers on the market today. “This device turns any location into a potential playground for sexual exploration,” she says, and can be used on many parts of the body for that slow-building and full-body play session.
Like the other Lovense products on this list, you can control the Domi 2 remotely through the brand’s app—allowing you to customize vibration levels and patterns, sync to music and sound, and communicate in-app with your long-distance lover. We also can’t get over the whopping 5-6 hours of battery life.
Materials: Not listed
Dimensions: 1.74 x 9.21 inches
Power: USB charging
Battery life: 5-6 hours
- Up to 6 hours of battery life
- Optional LED light
- Can be used on multiple parts of the body
- Only connects to Lovense app
15. Best long-distance butt plug for beginners
We-Vibe Ditto — $129.00
If you’re new to anal play, Dr. Williams recommends the We-Vibe Ditto butt plug. “Its versatile shape ensures it fits comfortably, making it a great option for beginners or experienced users alike,” she says. (Just don’t forget to lube up.) You can control the 10 different vibration patterns with a tiny remote or through the app. If you’re going to try anything anal for the first time, don’t forget to.
Materials: Silicone
Dimensions: 6.8 x 8.8 centimeters
Power: USB charging
Battery life: 2 hours
- Comes with a remote for solo sessions
- Waterproof
- Only connects to other We-vibe tools
- Only available in one size
16. Best size-inclusive long-distance butt plug
Lovense Hush2 — $199.00
The original teledildonic butt plug, this vibrating toy comes in four different sizes, giving you plenty of options for sex toys depending on your experience and comfort level with anal play. The vibrations are fairly powerful, which might be a plus for some and too intense for others, so keep that in mind. And yes, you can control it even from far away using the brand’s app—allowing for more customizations of vibration settings, music sync, and more.
Materials: Silicone
Dimensions: 3.86 x 1 inches (XS), 3.94 x 1.5 inches (S), 4.45 x 1.75 inches (M), 5.16 x 2.25 inches (L)
Power: Magnetic USB charging
Battery life: Varies based on size (120 minutes for the XS, up to 680 minutes for the L)
- Multiple different sizes
- Can sync with tons of other Lovense toys
- Expensive
- Battery life isn’t consistent across sizes
17. Best synchronized long-distance butt plug
OhMiBod Lumen — $119.00
Both Drs. Williams and Queen highlighted this butt plug as a favorite. Dr. Queen says what makes this vibrator a standout is its “ability to sync to ambient sound—voices or music included,” which opens your long-distance play up to all kinds of delicious new sensations. Don’t be fooled by its diminutive size, either: the unique ridges on the plug and powerful vibrations lend to some incredible pleasure. And as with some of the other Kiiroo-enabled toys on this list, you can synchronize controls with your partner’s sex toy via the FeelConnect app so you can simultaneously get off—even when long distance.
Materials: Silicone
Dimensions: 4 x 4 inches
Power: Magnetic USB charging
Battery life: 60 minutes
- Works with multiple apps
- Can sync to ambient sounds, including voice
- Ribbed for extra sensation
- Only one size available
- Less battery life than other options
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